Hold the Wince
After a kind no, let the guilty sting be there without rushing to fix it or take it back.
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The unanswered text
It is quiet after you said no, and your mind writes: they are mad at me. Quiet is just quiet. Wait before you fill it with apologies.
How do I try it right now?
After your next no, take three slow breaths before you explain or take it back.
What Flexi says in the Short
Feel guilty after saying no?
This is Hold the Wince.
After a kind no, let the guilty sting be there without rushing to fix it or take it back.
Picture it: the unanswered text. It is quiet after you said no, and your mind writes: they are mad at me. Quiet is just quiet. Wait before you fill it with apologies.
Try it: After your next no, take three slow breaths before you explain or take it back.
Questions people ask
What is Hold the Wince?
Hold the Wince is a Flexi Method skill in the Feel It group (FM 4.14). After a kind no, let the guilty sting be there without rushing to fix it or take it back.
When should I use Hold the Wince?
Reach for it when this sounds like you: Feel guilty after saying no?
How do I practice Hold the Wince?
After your next no, take three slow breaths before you explain or take it back. The Flexi app shows the pose to copy and the steps, then you tap I practiced this.
