Free skill · FM 3.1 · 03 Open Up

Pause and Open

When you feel defensive, pause, breathe and stay open.

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Updated October 27, 2026
Flexi Short · Open Up

No sound needed. Flexi does it, you copy it.

Picture it

The pause button

Defensive is fast forward. One tap of pause lets you hear the whole song.

How do I try it right now?

Pause, breathe, and ask one question before you answer.

Flexi
Tried it? That counts. Tap the button and Flexi gives you a small nod. Nothing is saved. Practice it again in the app any time.

What Flexi says in the Short

Feeling defensive?

This is Pause and Open.

When you feel defensive, pause, breathe and stay open.

Picture it: the pause button. Defensive is fast forward. One tap of pause lets you hear the whole song.

Try it: Pause, breathe, and ask one question before you answer.

Questions people ask

What is Pause and Open?

Pause and Open is a Flexi Method skill in the Open Up group (FM 3.1). When you feel defensive, pause, breathe and stay open.

When should I use Pause and Open?

Reach for it when this sounds like you: Feeling defensive?

How do I practice Pause and Open?

Pause, breathe, and ask one question before you answer. The Flexi app shows the pose to copy and the steps, then you tap I practiced this.

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