It has to be perfect, or it does not count.
Got overcontrol? Start here
Got overcontrol? Start with the free Grip Check.
Flexi is a skills app for perfectionists, people pleasers and anyone who holds on too tight: small everyday skills, taught by Flexi in seconds, and nothing you write is ever saved.
Take the free Grip Check: name your pattern in 2 minutes- Saves nothing you write
- Paid safely through Apple, Google or Shopify
- Written by a licensed clinical social worker
Loosen the grip. Let people in. Or get launch day access
Got Overcontrol?
Sound familiar?
Counting how many of these sound like you? Same. Flexi is here to help.
PerfectionismGood is never good enough.Learn more
People pleasingYou hide your needs and keep a polite face.Learn more
Always being the strong oneEveryone leans on you. You lean on no one.Learn more
Control and certainty seekingNot knowing feels unbearable.Learn more
Holding it all inYou are fine. Always fine.Learn more
You are not the only one. Not even close. Most of us are just really good at hiding it. Underneath all five is the same quiet cost: feeling alone, even around people.
Free · 2 minutes · nothing saved
Which one sounds most like you?
Twelve quick statements in plain words. See which patterns grip you hardest and where to start.
The Six Shifts
From grip to loose, one shift at a time
You hold yourself to a standard nobody else could meet, then wonder why it feels lonely up there. Every Flexi skill helps with one of six shifts. Start with the one that grips you hardest.
There is a right way, and it is mine.
If I might fail, I will not start.
Nothing I do is ever enough.
It is too much, so I keep busy and pull away.
I say yes, then quietly resent it.
Not sure which shift is yours? Take the free Grip Check.
Inside the Flexi app
Two minutes a day. Three simple tabs.
- TodayOne small skill a day, Flexi showing you how, a one minute game and an I practiced this tick.
- SkillsAll 86 skills in nine groups. Search a moment like saying no, or start with three picks.
- MeYour practice count, the monthly Flexi Five check in and your settings. Nothing you write is ever saved.
Pricing
Less than one coffee a week.
$99 a year, or $9.99 a month. All 86 skills with their steps, search, the moment shortcuts and the daily game from day one. Your Skill of the day and the daily game are free without a plan. No free trial.
See both plansCancel anytime in your store settings. Billed by the App Store or Google Play. Adults 18 and over in the United States.
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Totally Flawsome: flaws and all, still awesome.
Replay one typo all night? Draw a silly card, laugh at the flaw and turn the inner critic down. Digital $19.99, printed $69.99.
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Good Enough on Purpose: 86 small skills, one book.
Every Flexi skill in nine short chapters, with a skill finder and ready lines for saying no. A PDF for any phone, tablet or printer, $19.99.