Careful can tip into never good enough. Independent can tip into cut off. Pick a card, tap Flip it, then slide to where you are today. It takes about two minutes, and nothing leaves your device.
You feel great when people praise you and crushed when they do not, so you pull back, avoid people or quietly opt out.
You know your strengths and your rough edges, and you keep showing up and finishing what you start.
Sky high standards for you and everyone else, replaying how you looked, sounded or performed, and hiding when it is not perfect.
Progress over perfect. You accept your limits, and other people's, without giving up on caring.
Mistakes feel like proof you are weak or not enough, so you push people away or avoid anything you might fall short at.
You take reasonable chances, learn as you go, and let yourself not know how it will turn out.
Criticism, real or imagined, cuts deep and feels shameful. You may go quiet, feel hopeless or feel less than.
Armor up. Nothing gets in, blame goes outward, and feedback bounces off.
The middle: Steady skinned. Feel the sting, keep what is useful, let the rest go.
You feel different from everyone, handle it all alone, and keep your inner world locked up so you are not a burden.
You share a little of what is going on inside, and people feel closer because you are human too.
Little lies, missing details or hidden asks, to avoid disapproval, look better or keep the peace.
You say what you really mean and notice the urge to hide, pretend or hint instead of asking.
Always working on how others see you: capable, expert, the rescuer, while feeling smaller than everyone underneath.
You stay honest and open, and balance holding on with letting go.
Steering the outcome, changing the subject, passing blame and covering up anything that feels like a flaw.
You sit with the discomfort, look at your own part, and accept life as it is today.
Covering hurt with superiority, putting others down, chasing wins and feeling more important than others.
Feeling less than, putting yourself down, collapsing and throwing in the towel.
The middle: Both sides of me. You can be good at things and still be learning.
Anger that spills over: lashing out, holding grudges, blaming, punishing or needing to be on top.
Anger turned on yourself: punishing, hurting or quietly sabotaging yourself.
The middle: Cool and kind. Feel the anger, then choose what you do with it.
You rely only on yourself and avoid asking for help or letting anyone see you struggle.
Lonely, distant, out of practice with people, feeling unworthy and left out, and often less well.
The middle: Let people in. Ask for one small thing, and let someone help.
Measuring yourself against others, being hard on yourself and others, and feeling sure you are right.
You notice how your words land on you and on others, and you try on their point of view.
Being shut out hurts like real pain. You may go numb, and over time it can wear down your mood and health.
Warm signals that bring people back in: you are listening, you believe in them, you are in this together.
Quitting before you start or before you finish, because trying and failing feels worse than not trying.
Better to try than give up. You learn from setbacks and finish what you started.
Using food, exercise or substances to numb, escape or stay in control.
Steady meals, rest and care, plus kindness and understanding toward yourself.
All 15 on one page, with a skill to try for each. Print it at 11 x 14 or letter size and hang it where you need it.
Swipe five word pairs and see which way you lean. Polished or done? Hosting or joining? There are no wrong answers, and nothing is stored on our side.
Play Noodle or KnotIn the Flexi app, the Flip Side mirrors where you are today, then lets it go. If any card brings up thoughts of hurting yourself, call or text 988. 988 is the free Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. It is a separate national service, not part of the Flexi app.
